It’s exactly right to be exactly you.
This will make you happy.
It is not ok to feel knotted up inside trying to get along in society.
This will make you unhappy.
Every unique quality is like gold, to treasure and celebrate.
The value we each have,
The value we were born to share,
Is not meant to be hidden or altered.
We aren’t supposed to feel that differences mean things are harder, or will make life more of a struggle.
It would be harder if you were trying to fit into what someone else has decided is good, appropriate or necessary, to be of value and succeed.
You will struggle if you feel you need to change in order to be worthy.
Don’t try to fit.
You are not supposed to.
You came exactly the way you were meant to be.
Who says any passion or characteristic is more or less
It just isn’t so.
I am choosing to give my son a home where we trust in his true purpose
A purpose known by him and guided by him.
I choose to help him express himself in ways that bring him joy.
His very being, has brought joy to the world around him,
I see my most important job is to ensure his joy remains free flowing.
As it flows it washes away hurt, worry, stress and anger.
It always leaves a shine in the eyes of those who truly see him.
I won’t teach him “quiet hands” or shush his humm.
These are things that make him happy.
We are supposed to be happy right?
We will create a new way of life.
Where we are free to be, and live and communicate in OUR best way,
We will never conform to a tired old “normal”
It goes beyond awareness of conditions or disorders.
It goes far beyond a cute logo, coloured light and inclusion.
It is so much more than services and understanding or the lack of.
I don’t see any of those things….anymore.
I realized something because of what
I DO see.
I see him. I see him enjoying his life.
I see him finding ways to make himself happy
I see him loving the heck out of things like trains and honeycombs.
I know he is full of pure, sweet, love.
The only time I see him upset
Is when we’re trying to make him “fit” into some ridiculous standard
Or when we push our needs ahead of his own.
It is true that as a family there will need to be compromise and it is likely there will be some annoyance along the way.
But I choose to be part of a family
That has unconditional support for each other,
Where we show big love,
Where we do the stuff that makes us laugh,
Where the cheerleading for our own, and each others
True inner joy
is so exuberant and so silly
It never fails
It just cannot.
That good things can happen.
That accepting differences is the way toward change.
Where things we only dream of
Can be created in our reality
And show us all a new way.
Of course, I’m not just speaking to those of us with undeniable differences.
This is for anyone who wakes and breathes and seeks joy.
If you can take away one thought
From all of this,
Just be happy…
It’s what we’re meant to be.
And it will only BE
If you can truly